I ran on empty for years.
I believed I was completely alone.
I believed no one could or should "have" to help me.
I am three years into rebuilding my life and work from scratch.
I have 20 years of experience leading individuals, teams and organizations through strategic, operational, and cultural growth and transformation.
I am here to help.
My mission is to step alongside you, as your mentor and guide in a safe space, as you create a road map for life and work that allows you to be fully present, clear, peaceful, and free--a life that is anchored in your own well-being so that you are able to bring your best to your family, work, community and the world.
What is your measure of success? Career, title, income, family, influence, relationships, health?
When I crashed, I lost almost everything.
With the value of hindsight, I know that my life showed "symptoms" that I was running on empty for years, long before the "crash" began. There were lots of red flags. In fact, those red flags were used to develop the Running on Empty Quiz.
I have learned that the very skills, habits and capacity that made me "successful"--my ability to endure, persist, compartmentalize, and outwork most everyone around me--became, over time, my Achilles heel. If I got sick or so tired I couldn't move, I would rest just long enough to have the energy to pull myself back up by my bootstraps and keep going.
I didn't know what "reasonable" looked like in terms of how I worked and lived. As soon as I would start to feel better, I would return to my old habits. My team used to tell me that looking at my calendar gave them anxiety. It gave me anxiety too, but I wasn't going to admit it. Before the crash, 10, 12, 14-hour workdays were not the exception. They were the norm.
I had three children. I was the primary wage earner. I loved my job and was passionate about carrying the organization forward toward my vision of the future.
In many ways, I didn't know how to be anyone but the person who tried to do it all on her own. I was riding on a bullet train of my own creation. I could not figure out how to safely exit the train.
When we are running on empty, we start to believe we have no options. We may even realize the way we are living and working isn't sustainable, but we have also developed tunnel vision and an inability to problem-solve on our own behalf. We cannot see a way out, so we just keep going. Until we reach a breaking point.
In the midst of the struggle we feel terribly, horribly alone. As leaders, we are acutely aware of the potential risk in admitting that we need help or that we cannot continue to live and work in the same way. Others have high expectations of us, and we set the bar there ourselves.
Today, I know that I had options. I had choices. I didn't have to crash. I just couldn't see my way out all alone. I couldn't see that I was on a path to destruction. I couldn't proactively mitigate the risks.
You don't have to keep running on empty. You don't have to crash.
Together, we can design a road map for life and work that allows you to be fully present, clear, peaceful, and free--a life that is anchored in your own well-being so that you are able to bring your best to your family, work, community and the world.
I am here to help.
Sound familiar? Ready to consider the possibility that you can live and work in alignment your well-being; realizing your full potential?